- Pick out Cemetary Plot
***Don’t rush picking out a grave marker. This does not need to be decided right away. Shop around and find exactly what you want. - Visit Funeral Home
- Take anything you want your baby buried with to Funeral Home ex.: special outfit, pictures, blankie, doll or stuffed toy
- If having a closed casket, request funeral home to take a picture with disposable camera
- Write Obituary for Local Paper
- Visit Florist for Floral Arrangements for Casket
- Plan Memorial Service
- Gather Speical Mementos to Display at Memorial Service
***As the parents, there were some things that were very important for us to take care of on our own. We entrusted other family members and friends with some of these errands though. For example, our church family coordinated all the food for after the service. Our moms shopped for my outfit, floral arrangements, and many miscellaneous items. Our brother researched and scheduled the funeral home and cemetary for us.
Hello team Peace Bears
I live in South Africa and I was wondering if you send bears this way too?…
My son, Lihan, was born on the 4th of March 2015 at 31 weeks. He had a CHD (pulmonary stenosis) and pleural effusion (fluid in his chest). We knew from 18 weeks that he had an extremely small chance to survive, but we decided to carry him… We went through many in-utero procedures to try and give him a better chance – the last procedure (at 28 weeks) sent me into premature labour and I spent 11 days in the hospital. At 31 weeks they had to do an emergency C-section because I almost lost my own life… Lihan and I both fought so hard. He lost his fight 3 hours after he was born. We never got to hold him whilst he was alive, because he was attached to so many machines in the NICU – and I asked their constant reassurance that he was not in any pain… They brought him to my husband and I after he got his wings, and we could spend some time with him. We left the hospital with empty arms, and I miss him terribly… He weighed 1.913kg and my arms ache to feel “him” again… I came across your website by accident whilst looking for local support groups similar to your organisation. It seems like there is no support in South Africa for bereaved parents and it is so difficult! Hope to hear from you soon
MY DAUGHTER HAD IDENTICAL TWINS ON JUNE 2 2015. AT 24 WEEKS THEY HAD EMERGENCY C-SECTION BECAUSE ONE OF THE GIRLS HAD NO HEART BEAT. NATALEE WAS STILL BORN AND LYLA WAS BORN HEALTHY AT 2lbs. 6oz. THEY HAD TWIN TO TWIN TRANSFUSION. LYLA DIED ON JUNE 9TH FROM A STAFF INFECTION. I AM TRYING TO HELP MY DAUGHTER THROUGH THIS BUT IT IS VERY VERY HARD. SOME DAYS I THINK WE WILL BE OK AND THEN THE PAIN,EMPTINESS AND ANGER COMES RUSHING IN!
I just had my baby on Thursday at 21 weeks . This is my first night alone I keep having nightmares and screaming myself awake. I’m so sad I can’t even think. People keep saying it’ll get better but know one can tell me when. This sadness is unbearable